"Lead me , O lord, in your righteousness because of my enemies- make straight your way before me. Not a word from their mouth can be trusted; their heart is filled with destruction. Their throat is an open grave; with their tongue they speak deceit." Psalm 5:8-9

"keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies" Psalm 34:13

"When words are many , sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise" Proverbs 10:19

"He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity." Proverbs 21:23

"Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone" Proverbs 25:15

" Like one who seizes a dog by the ears is a passer by who meddles in a quarrel not his own. like a madman shooting firebrands or deadly arrows is a man who deceives his neighbor and says "i was only joking" . Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down.... The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts. Like a coating of glaze over earthenware are fervent lips with an evil heart. A malicious man disguises himself with his lips but in his heart he harbors deceit. though his speech is charming do not believe him for seven abominations fill his heart..... A lying tongue hates those it hurts and a flattering mouth works ruin." Proverbs 26: 12-20. 22-25, 28

" A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger , the tongue of the wise commends knowledge but the mouth of the foll gushes folly." Proverbs 15:1-2

There is much much more. I decided this morning after reading my study to do an additional study, my heart was weighed heavily upon this morning by the subject of tactfullness, tongues, and maturity. I found the most verses dealing with tongues in Psalms and Proverbs and the harshness and truth of the words well it's unsettling it's so true . it's gets u. It speaks volumes and all of us are guilty of such things. And that is convicting to me.
Now Tactfullness i first learned about tactfulness from Joseph- you know the many coat of colours - yup That boy did not know who to keep his mouth shut and it got him into a ton of trouble. When i think of tact i think of him.... he did in his life learn how to be tact full- i think that comes from maturity and wisdom. knowing when and what to say. Not just blabbing your mouth, running it around town , being loose with your words. Proverbs is a book of wisdom and discipline, prudence, discernment. The words run deep and true, speaking with conviction. The best most use full tool is the book i have here , the Bible. The one i am currently looking at was a wedding gift from our pastor that married us and probably the best tool we could use in our marriage.

The tongue - what a weapon it is. As you see from the verses above it can be used wisely or carelessly. How destructful it is. Hurtful.

- Gold there is , and rubies in abundance , but lips that speak knowledge are a rare jewel. Proverbs 20:15

God is truly teaching me these things , tact fullness, wisdom, discernment, speech ( the use of my tongue), and maturity ( what is looks like ) . Though i think i am learning from my mistakes and the hard way i suppose. How precious is my family and my husband. Our relationship is so precious and sacred i need to treat it that way with the utmost respect. I. Discernment. Advice should come from those i respect. I am learning to choose my words wisely and constantly ask God to guide my words and heart and mind. Everyday , every thought that he be in them and over them. That i speak with wisdom, and guidance , that i am tactful. That i glorify him with this. That my life is one where i continue to mature in him and live a life that shows this . That i can be pleasing not only to Him but to by husband as well.